MENGOBATI LUKA ANAK KORBAN PERCERAIAN MELALUI PEMAAFAN
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https://doi.org/10.21580/sa.v10i2.1433Keywords:
stress, anak korban perceraian, pemaafanAbstract
Stress bias terjadi dimanapun, kapanpun, dan bagaimanapun. Salah satu stress dirasakan oleh anak-anak. Sebagian besar anak yang tumbuh dalam keluarga yang bercerai akan mengalami stress berat beresiko mengembangkan masalah masalah perilaku misalnya juvenil delequency, mall adjusment dll. Pemaafan sangat dibutuhkan bagi anak untuk mengelola dan menanggulangi disstres yang dirasakan. Alur yang ditawarkan oleh pemaafan mengarahkan anak untuk menekankan jalan damai dan cinta kasih untuk mengatasi rasa sakit yang dialami. Anak tidak lagi menimpakan beban kesalahan pada orang lain, dan dapat melihat bahwa hal yang lebih penting adalah berusaha mencapai perasaan dan kondisi damai itu sendiri. Perlu upaya mengurangi perasaan dengan menggunakan faktor analisis, mendapatkan tiga aspek kesiapan memaafkan, yaitu pemaafan versus balas dendam, situasi pribadi dan sosial, dan halangan terhadap pemaafan.
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